He said many victims wanted to block out memories of being attacked by a loved one so preferred to try and forget and cut off contact with their families rather than report it. Shockingly, the parents are normally aware of the rape and have handpicked a family member, normally a cousin but also brother, father or mother, for the task. Mr Mogli said in some communities in South India, marriages amongst cousins are common and parents decide which relation their daughter will be married to soon after her birth.